5 Tips to Keeping Sane During the Holidays and Savoring the Moment. Written by Guest Blogger Rosalinda Randall.
We all have our way of doing things. However, it isn’t always the right way, at least according to some of our family members. So how can you tell them to butt out without hurting their feelings? And most importantly, how do you keep calm during the holidays?
Before going on, please ask yourself:
- Is it really that serious?
- Why does it bother me so much?
- Is it intentional?
If you know that Uncle Brad always brings his spinach dip, which by the way, is so much better than yours; accept it. Do you really think that after seven years he’s going to stop?
If your cousin allows her darling little Kenzie to run around and grab whatever she wants, including your precious swizzle stick collection, put your swizzle stick collection away.
You can ask and politely request, and people will either comply or not. At times it is up to you to make adjustments.
Clearly, you do not have to tolerate everything your guests dish out. And once in a while it is necessary to address the situation immediately. If that is the case, do so discreetly. Oh yes, and keep calm and cordial. Getting all crazy will not do much for the situation nor your reputation.
Consider these 5 Tips to Keeping Calm During The Holidays
1) Stop fighting it—their personalities and idiosyncrasies will probably never change.
2) Keep quiet, knowing that in a few short hours, they will be gone.
3) Accept and embrace it, you have a family who makes the effort to get together.
4) Prepare: make certain rooms off-limits, put away valuables, provide activities for the children, discreetly enlist the assistance of another family member to keep an eye on the little rascal.
5) Go with the flow, enjoy the moment and be thankful.
If all things fail, then maybe you can ask someone else to host the party next time.
“Remain calm, serene, always in command of yourself. You will then find out how easy it is to get along.” –Pramahansa Yoganada
Rosalinda Randall is a Communication and Tact Consultant and Author of “When Junior Comes Home from College” . Using etiquette as a foundation, she helps people enhance their reputation and communication style. Rosalinda brings a modern attitude and a little humor to the age-old topic of etiquette. Your Relationship Edge, 650.871.6200.